Dove Ad Sheds Light on Appearance vs. Perception

I originally saw this on Guyism and knew that I needed to a) share it, b) save it to show my daughter (and wife).

Dove has become known for trying to show ‘real beauty’ and have nailed another campaign where women are first asked to describe themselves to a forensic artist who has never seen them before. The forensic artist then asks a stranger who had a brief, friendly interaction with the woman to describe what they look like. The results are fascinating.

Lesson –

“I should be more grateful for my natural beauty.”



Ze Frank’s “An Invocation for Beginnings”

Post is rated PG for appropriately strong language which I think you will enjoy.

Let me think about the people I love and care about the most. And how when they fail, or disappoint me I still love them, I still give them chances and I still see the best in them. Let me extend that generosity to myself.

I have watched this video maybe a dozen times since last Spring (2012) when Ze Frank originally recorded (or at least posted) to kick of his web series, “a show” and it has been a sort of lighthearted, empowering kick in the butt to get going and forgive yourself for what happens. When I originally sat down to start this project, I had watched it again and wrote down half a dozen quotes from this one video alone. Since I wasn’t sure what this would become, (and still am not) I had not thought to post the video and discuss them all.

The video is was originally posted on Ze Franks website here, and if you have the time I would suggest sitting through the series and maybe even participating in some of the missions. Posters are also available with the full dialogue of this video, they’re worth looking into.

Image representing Ze Frank as depicted in Cru...Lesson: Please take the time to watch the video and pull the lesson from it yourself. It is apparent throughout every statement Ze Frank says, no matter how irreverent it may be.

My take on the lesson is three-fold:

  1. Get started. Even if you’re scared, especially if you’re scared. FILDI stands for “Fuck it, let’s do it” by the way. It will help drive this message home even more once you know that.

    I’m scared that my abilities are gone. I’m scared that I’m gonna fuck this up. Of you.

  2. Delivering something is better than nothing. It is a step forward, a piece of you; your voice. It will not be perfection, and it will be criticized; that should stop you from finishing.

    Perfectionism may look good in his shiny shoes, but he’s a little bit of an asshole and no one invites him to their pool parties… And when I eat my critique, let me separate out the good advice from the bitter herbs.

  3. Be proud of and fully vested in what you are doing, when you are doing it.

    Let me not think of my work as a stepping stone to something else. And if it is, let me become fascinated with the shape of the stone.

One last quote. It is how he ends the video and is worth repeating.

Life isn’t just a sequence of waiting for things to be done.

John Cleese on Creativity

Creativity is not a talent. It is a way of operating.

When I say a way of operating, what I mean is this; creativity is not an ability that you either have or do not have. It is, for example; and this may surprise you, absolutely not related to IQ… those regarded by their peers as most creative were in no way, whatsoever, different in IQ from their less creative colleagues… The most creative had simply acquired a facility for getting themselves into a particular mood… an ability to play.

-John Cleese


I first saw this video on Brainpickings and I encourage you to go there and read more about it.

John Cleese, if you didn’t know already is an English actor, comedian, writer and film producer. If you haven’t heard of him, you have not been paying attention to comedy for the last for the last 40 or so years (since Monty Python’s Flying Circus first aired). His discussion of Creativity is riddled with great quotes (many of which Maria Popova had pulled out for you), but it is worth your time to watch this and learn simply, how to be more creative. Not specifically what you should think about, etc; but under what conditions can help.

Lesson: This entire video is a lesson in becoming more creative. It does not explain how to be more humorous, or how to write comedy better or how to make better art… it is simply an explanation of how you to become more creative in everyday life.

Get out of this idea that creativity needs to lead to something delivered… it could simply lead to something new.